Dr. Paul L. Hokemeyer is a licensed marriage and family therapist, consultant, and author. He is one of the world’s foremost experts on resolving the complex, sensitive, and highly nuanced issues that arise among the world’s most prominent families. Dr. Paul Hokemeyer describes how he developed his expertise in working with the wealthy and powerful.

In this episode, we discuss how some behavioral health providers may not be trained in addressing the needs of ultra-high net worth families. You’ll learn what techniques are effective when professionals encounter challenging personalities with large egos and narcissism. Tune in as we share information about how to effectively have sensitive discussions with your clients to maximize the chances they will be open to your opinions.

In This Episode:

• [00:35] About Dr. Paul L. Hokemeyer. Paul explains how he developed his expertise in working with the wealthy and powerful.
• [09:15] Dr. Paul gives an example of a breakthrough he had during his work.
• [11:00] How to identify middle-aged narcissistic men.
• [16:05] The ways that Dr. Paul will work with other clinicians.
• [21:15] How to have tough conversations with narcissistic people.

Key Takeaways:

• Historically, behavioral health has not done an excellent job in delivering culturally competent and clinically excellent care to segments of the population who needs it.
  
• Being betrayed at a young age will result in a severe ego injury, and they will grow up thinking that people are unsafe.
  
• Two distinct dynamics occur in a therapeutic relationship. The first is called transference, and the second is called countertransference.
  
• Recognize your limitations as an advisor; don’t be afraid to ask for help.
  

Meet Dr. Paul L. Hokemeyer

Dr. Paul L. Hokemeyer, a licensed marriage and family therapist, consultant and author, is one of the world’s foremost experts on resolving the complex, sensitive and highly nuanced issues that arise among the world’s most prominent families. He is a founding principal of the London based Drayson Mews International, a mental health and addiction treatment collective, and is listed as one of the world’s top “Problem Solvers” in Tatler’s High Net Worth Address book.

In his groundbreaking book, Fragile Power: Why Having It All Is Never Enough (Hazelden, 2019), Dr. Paul sets forth a new standard of culturally competent and clinically effective care for UHNW individuals and families who struggle with mental health, personality, relational and addictive disorders.

His work has been utilized by the World Economic Forum and featured in a wide range of academic and popular publications including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review Arabia, The Johns Hopkins Newsletter, WebMD, The Journal of Wealth Management, London’s Daily Mail, U.S. News and World Report, Time and others. In addition, he appears regular on both American and International News outlets including CNN, CNN International, FOXNews, Al Jazeera, The Today Show, and Good Morning America to provide expert commentary on the wide range of issues that arise at the intersection of power, celebrity, wealth and well-being.

A believer in education as a lifelong process, Dr. Paul holds a Ph.D. in psychology, a doctorate in law (J.D.), a M.A. in family dynamics, and is currently studying how to optimize the use of digital technologies in the delivery mental health services at the Yale University School of Management.

Links Mentioned:

Website: https://addressbook.tatler.com/united-kingdom/london/high-net-worth/dr-paul-hokemeyer

Fragile Power: Why Having Everything Is Never Enough; Lessons from Treating the Wealthy and Famous: https://www.amazon.com/Fragile-Power-Diminishes-Connection-Therapist/dp/1616497645/ref=zg_bsnr_4719_10?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=TNJC2G9ZP79DQ841C18H